Who you choose to marry will play a key role in your future happiness. If you question your decision in any way, here are 10 reasons why you should not get married.
The moment you enter your mid-twenties, the whole world discovers a new-found obsession to see you tie the knot.
Why is it that marriage has been made into the ultimate life goal?
Before we dive into this list, I’d like to point out that in some cases it does make sense for a man to get married. But before taking the plunge, it would be wise to carefully consider each reason below why you should probably not.
1. It’s Nobody’s Business. Firstly, normally the pressure about getting married doesn’t come from you or, if you’re in a relationship, your a partner. It’s normally from family during some horrible gauntlet of awkward family questionings. So, so many random relatives. But it can also be from friends, co-workers, women’s magazines — it’s just so expected. But it’s not anyone’s business if you want to be married or not. None. It can be hard to remember this when you’re getting a lot of pressure from people around you, so just remind yourself it’s your life. Yours. No one else.
2. It’s Completely OK To Want To Be Alone. If you’re happily single, there’s no reason you shouldn’t remain so. Independence should be something that’s celebrated, but for some reason we put so much more emphasis on partnering up. Everyone is different, and there are some very good reasons for not wanting to be with anyone. Maybe it’s just at this point in your life, or maybe it’s forever.
3. Marriage is just a label. Love is more of an inward thing than the marriage processes used as a proof. If you want to be committed to someone, you don’t need a piece of paper telling you that. You can be as dedicated, committed and loving a partner as anyone else without getting married.
In Other words, paper doesn’t mean a thing to you.
If you are in a relationship, that doesn’t mean you need to get married. If it makes you and your partner feel better, or it’s important to you, great go for it! But for a lot of people wanting to be together has nothing to do with a piece of paper. Maybe you’re not religious or maybe you just think you don’t need it. In either case, what’s the point in spending all that money and time if you don’t think it will change your relationship? It doesn’t make you less romantic or less in love, it just means you don’t care about having paperwork to show it.
4. Not all relationships pass the test of time. Marriage doesn’t secure the longevity of a union. If things become rough in marriages, divorce becomes an option, possibly the ultimate option. Whether or not the separation is out of mutual consent. When two people decide to end a long-term relationship that they’ve invested their soul and heart into, getting into legal hassles is the last thing they want to be involved in.
It’s not a guarantee you’ll stay together.
You may think that marriage “binds” you forever, but studies show that’s not true. That’s not to say that couples can’t stay together forever, but getting married won’t necessarily guarantee that. Divorce is still a normal occurrence people get divorced all the damn time. So using marriage as synonymous with “forever” isn’t accurate.
5. The Wedding. Why would you have your balls screwed on tight to get through just this few hours event. Aside the thousands of money that day consumes, the bride is the one that ends up getting all the attention and admiration when she possibly did not put a dime in it. The money spent on wedding ceremonies are huge and could rather be invested into something more lucrative than some other extra stomach you will have to feed in the name of ‘responsibility’.
6. 50% Of All Marriages End in Divorce. In this country alone, there are over 600,000 reported divorce cases. Marriages are only 50/50. What other long-term commitment would ANYONE make if it only had a 50/50 shot at success? Would you buy a car if right before I sold it to you I said, “Ok, so this thing will only start 50% of the time and that’s the best you can hope for?”
7. Your Freedom is Gone. Why will you put yourself in a situation where you would have to get back home because your partner is angry or bored when the party just started. You are limited and restricted in your activities just because of the other party.
8. If You Don’t Want It, You’ll Resent It. If you are forced into a big decision you don’t want to make, chances are you’ll resent it and marriage is no different. When I’m doing something I felt pressured into I start to blame everything that goes wrong on that decision. So if you didn’t want to get married and then suddenly times are tough, you’re probably going to blame it on the marriage. You don’t need that and neither does your relationship.
9. There Are Other Ways To Show Commitment. I get it you’re standing up there pledging your life to each other in front of your friends and family. And if that’s what commitment means for you, then you do you. But there are other ways to show commitment too, and you may find an alternative that’s better for you. Whether it’s moving in together, having children, or just talking about what you mean to each other and your plans privately, there are so many ways you can say “you’re the one for me” without throwing rice.
10. And There Are Other Ways To Be Fulfilled. Like I said, if you’re in a relationship you don’t need to be married, and if you’re single there’s no reason you need to be with anyone. If you have a job you’re passionate about, people you’re close to, and hobbies that take up your time and make you excited, there may be no need or even any room for marriage on top of it. That’s totally fine.